When people are confronted with a feeling that their values are being attacked, they behave in predictable patterns which show up as different behaviours because different motives rise to the challenge.
Read MoreMarch MOTIVATION - Be Aware & In Control of your Feelings
Responding to relationships is all about feelings.
People who support you to feel your best encourages you to lean in … to follow.
Those that trigger friction and conflict, push you to leap out of the relationship.
Read MoreMarch MOTIVATION - Avoiding Strengths
I’ve been going to the gym, most mornings, for six months
I’ve strengthened muscles that I didn’t know existed
Like most people, I’ve relied on the same muscles to do the work and avoided using weaker muscles which would have done a better job if I had exercised them.
In our relationships, we do the same.
We avoid using strengths that could achieve a better outcome … for both parties.
It’s uncomfortable using strengths you normally avoid.
It can feel awkward, fearful and it takes courage to let your ego and guard down.
However, if you consider the reason for using these new strengths, you’ll find that your motives will be the driver.
My least used strength is being modest: I play down what I am capable of doing to enable others to rise up to the challenge or that my results speak for themselves.
As a sole trader, I can’t rely on this strength, yet if I was a team leader, then this strength would be an opportunity to lead.
What strength are you avoiding?
What opportunity are you missing in your leadership?
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