Can We Co-exist?

Can We Co-exist In The Office, Roads ... In Life?

I'm on the edge of my seat watching the concluding episodes of Cordon - a Belgium drama being aired on SBS in Australia. We peer into peoples' lives in the fish bowl as they are cordoned off  due to a virus outbreak - required to co-exist with people - in particular, an office team living in their workplace.

On the radio this morning, John Faine #abc774 questioned if motorists and cyclists can co-exist on the roads? We were asked as listeners to consider if  it's our attitude and behaviour which is causing the 'dooring' deaths in our suburbs.

When people are forced to share the same space in a work environment (we generally don't get the chance to choose our work colleagues, let alone the team reporting to us) we survive or lead.

Survival is all about me! Focusing on what works for me and what the device in my hand tells me! We consider what's best for ourselves first before thinking or feeling for others.

Leading to co-exist is all about assessing, observing, reading and 'smelling' the culture & climate of the community and being the person which the people need and what the situation requires. 

Pushing peoples' panic button by urging them to do what is outside their personality comfort zone are potentially necessary for 'survival' (whether it's to live through an epidemic or arrive home safe from a bike-ride) however, it's your approach and attitude which will determine the outcome.

Yes we can co-exist and it does take an inordinate continuous effort and great leadership.

Are you IN IT or ON IT?

Do you watch people?

I do!

I observe their faces and their body language. It speaks to me! Sometimes, I feel that I can read those troubled ‘thought bubbles’ above their heads! Yeah, their body gives plenty of clues however their facial expressions tell the story.

As a facilitator, I analyse every person in the group enabling me to collaborate – linking people to the discussion, the intent, the goal, shifting troubled thoughts and helping maintain the focus – regularly I burst those thought bubbles!

I take this skill to the streets; observing people move & breathe (often the passive cigarette smoke) and I see people relax: between meetings, off to the office, out to lunch -it’s great to see people laughing and moving.  

Too often, people skip lunch, chose to Skype, sit too long, and don’t get out of their offices /‘work space’ and not before long, sink ‘in it’ rather than move ‘on it’.

The ‘in it’ face is often expressionless or tired looking. Whereas, the ‘on it’ face speaks life.

Leadership is about making people feel important, enough to support their attempt of the impossible. So, if you value your people, help them get ‘on it’, create a workspace which encourages movement, interaction & focus ‘on it’. You are responsible for your people – get ‘on it’!