REMOVE & REPLACE - ALTER THE OUTCOME OF YOUR DAY

REMOVE & REPLACE

A practise to alter the outcome of your day.

2020 is looming and whilst many are preparing for the new year, how about we reduce this speed to concentrate on making a subtle alteration to our morning practice to enable an enjoyable remaining three months of 2019.  

There will be no mention of ch**ge; people have an aversion to it.

Rather, let’s view making simple alterations to potentially alter the days outcome.

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Making alternations will help you achieve results from your mind and heart and direct these to your head and hand. How we think and feel drives how we behave.

Alterations commence with these two key words: Remove & Replace.

What can you remove from your daily practice and what will you replace in its absence? Rather than leave a void, we often find it easier to replace with an alternative. For example:

  • Remove thinking worst possible scenario and replace with one possible positive outcome.

  • Remove wondering what someone is thinking about you and replace with the commitment to call that person.

  • Remove feeling hopeless about the work you’re doing and replace with feeling hope that you’ve done your best.

  • Remove talking negatively about yourself and replace with a three positive strengths you bring to the day.

Reviewing your daily thoughts and tapping into the emotions you feel as you eat your breakfast and sip your coffee is paramount to altering your day’s outcome.

Remove what’s bothering you most and replace it with renewed energy, a new intention.

Tapping is my Remove & Replace ritual. Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a simple practice of connecting to the present negative emotions which need to be removed (away from the Amygdala in the brain - fight & flight) and then rewired with helpful positive emotions and thoughts (Prefrontal Cortex area of the brain - seeking to build trust). You can research this technique and give it a test run. I personally find it effective and powerful.

An example: I’ve created a bucket of actions and feel overwhelmed with its weight; I acknowledge this heavy feeling. I am replacing it with a prioritized list of what I need to do and a feeling of being in control.

If it’s too simple, here’s a lengthier action specific version of my Remove & Replace process which I use with my clients:

PROCESS - Example One

  1. Review my day

My head is like a bucket. It’s filled with pictures of the items at home and business which need to be completed. I feel overwhelmed and I’m struggling to know where to start.

2. Rate my current performance to achieve my day

My business is a 5 out of 10. My family will entertain themselves today – they are 9/10. The house is tidy – it’s 8/10.

3. Relate my purpose to my day

Today, my business needs more attention as the family have had my undivided attention for the past two days.

4. Results & Rewards I prefer to achieve

Completing five items for my business will enable me to enjoy Thursday & Friday with the family and enjoy some domestic bliss.

5. REMOVE OBSTACLES

TO FIX THE FEELING OF BEING OVERWHELMED, I TELL MYSELF THAT I NEED TO REMOVE THE BUCKET.

6. REPLACE WITH ALTERNATIVE

IN REPLACEMENT OF THE BUCKET I WILL CREATE A PRIORITIZED LIST OF ALL THE ACTIONS IN MY HEAD AND THE TIME REQUIRED FOR EACH ITEM. MY DAY IS SET OUT

7. Repeat process to make it a daily habit

Tomorrow I’ll review my effectiveness of this alteration.

PROCESS - Example Two

  1. Review my day

I have a meeting planned with the team today. I’m not looking forward to it. They’re a great bunch however they just don’t give their best and aren’t meeting their targets.

 2. Rate my current performance to achieve my day

The meeting is a 4/10 – I forgot to send the agenda and I need to give negative feedback to the whole team.

3. Relate my purpose to my day

This is my role, I need to make this meeting effective as I’m responsible for their performance. This needs my focused attention.

4. Results & Rewards I prefer to achieve

I will ask the team to create the meeting agenda and give them the feedback immediately to get it on the table. I need the team to trust me and I need to trust them.

5. REMOVE OBSTACLES

TO FIX THE TEAM MEETING, I TELL MYSELF TO STOP BLAMING THE TEAM AND WORRYING ABOUT THE MEETING AND TO VIEW MY DAY DIFFERENTLY AND FEEL ACCOUNTABLE FOR THIS PROBLEM.

6. REPLACE WITH ALTERNATIVE

I REPLACE THE WORRY WITH A PLANNED COMMUNICATION TO SEND TO THE GROUP REQUESTING THEIR INPUT FOR THE TEAM MEETING AGENDA. I PRACTISE HOW TO SHARE THE FEEDBACK WHICH REQUIRES AN ACCOUNTABLE AND EFFECTIVE OUTCOME.

7. Repeat process to make it a daily habit

Tomorrow I’ll review my effectiveness of this alteration.

What will you do to start your day. What will you remove and replace?

I’d love to hear how you can implement my Remove & Replace process.

WHAT'S YOUR PROVOCATIVE QUESTION?

WHAT’S YOUR PROVOCATIVE QUESTION?

What do you collect?

I’ve met collectors of shoes, cars, houses and recipes! I simply or crazily collect questions.

Great questions can: transform a superficial conversation into an extraordinary relationship; unlock the real you … someone whom you thought you really knew and questions can elevate your happiness (think: Will you marry me?)

I glean questions at every opportunity. I record them, highlight them in a book, send myself recorded messages when I hear questions and their answers – quite alarming when I think of it!

So, it was very exciting to be handed a book which was filled with questions. That’s a Great Question, written or should I say, collated by Greg Bustin, provides on a platter, hundreds of tried and tested provacative questions, categorized into themed chapters – handy if you’re coaching others or as I found myself, using it as a self-help coaching book. Don’t be fooled thinking it’s a one hour read!

This book is your ideal, end of year practical exercise to prepare for 2017. As Greg suggests, take yourself away from your normal space; go hiking, block out a day to work through this book. Surprisingly, I am still reading this book today (Sunday) as I have found myself continually stopping in search on the answers.

In my business this week, we completed a mini-skills session with a client – exploring a couple of models to coach staff. I am always amazed how people come to realise how powerful a conversation becomes by using great questions to dig and discover.

Greg says that using questions effectively is like a dance. I agree. It’s not a checklist. It’s a conversation which you can exercise your lead but it’s about two people committed to working together. Whilst it might not look like Fred Astaire & Ginger Rogers on the dancefloor, it should feel like a performance (of achievement).

Fred Astaire & Ginger Rogers - Courtesy of DHC Treasures

I couldn’t decide on a favourite question to share; so I’ve selected a few from a few of the thoughtfully categorised sections of the book. Use these on yourself and be surprised how time consuming it can be truthfully respond.

Purpose

If our company did not exist, what would the world be missing?What gives me a sense of certainty?

Values

What’s one principle I wished everyone practised?

Goal Setting

If I knew I couldn’t fail, what would I do?

Trust

What am I kidding myself about?

How do I respond when I place my trust in someone and they let me down?

Communication

If a stranger walked in and asked any employee about our vision, mission and strategy, what would they hear?

Leadership

Do I behave differently in the office than at home? If so, in what ways? If so, what causes my behaviour to differ from place to place?

Time Management

If I tracked my time in 30 minute increments for a month, what would I find? Is this how I should spend my time?

Talent + Teamwork

Who are five people I spend most of my time with? Are they helping me or holding me back?

What am I doing to help make this job the best job my people have ever had?

Customer + Prospects

What memorable experience are we creating with our customers?

Making Things Happen

Do we measure the things that are important to us?

Are we having fun? Am I having fun?

Accountability

Whose job am I doing today? (I do like this question.)

Blue Sky

What would I do if I didn’t work?

I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious. – Albert Einstein

 

The book provides tips to help you coach others effectively, how to structure your questions, which words to never use and rules to abide by to establish a trusting relationship where private information is shared.

My greatest tip for you is to use the book on yourself first. Leadership works well when there is authentic self-awareness. Let this book be your gift to others by getting yourself ready for an awesome 2017. Alternatively, gift yourself a Coach for 2017 and get in contact with me to discover your best self.

 

I’m endeavouring to read 52 Business/Professional/Personal Development books in 52 weeks. Yep, that’s one a week. As I read each book, I’ll share my thoughts, learning and recommendations. If there is a book that you’ve been meaning to read, let me know and I’ll read it for us!

Everything has potential - even a trampoline!

I'm sitting here alone, well, amongst the noise of kids having way too much fun and parents and grandparents looking slightly bored in a large warehouse filled with trampolines!

If you don't have kids, nieces, nephews - you get my point, then this might be news - but there is money in the simple trampoline!  For $15, kids and adults get an hour to bounce! OMG - who thought of that?! 

And what else has potential? Look around - does something 'click' for you? It might not come immediately and you might need some help to 'brainstorm' ideas, however, it is there if you seriously want to look for the potential. This is a critical point - you have to have the desire to seek out the potential or there will be too many BIG 'buts' that block the view.

Now consider this - every one of us has potential. You might already be successful in your career, in your sport, and now is the time to consider the potential you have in other aspects of your life - it's waiting to be tapped.

Potential is the trampoline in our mind! Bouncing questions, issues and ideas around your mind is where the magic begins. Ask yourself: What am I passionate about? What do I absolutely love doing? And, what's my 'why', my purpose? Most people struggle with these questions. Do you?

We ask these questions during our Driving Your Life Pit Stop, a two day workshop. We challenge you with questions and a series of activities to bounce around issues & ideas which we are purposely fixated on your potential. If you're in Melbourne (Aust.) we have our next Pit Stop commencing on the 31st of July 2014.

 

 

 

 

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