REMOVE & REPLACE - ALTER THE OUTCOME OF YOUR DAY

REMOVE & REPLACE

A practise to alter the outcome of your day.

2020 is looming and whilst many are preparing for the new year, how about we reduce this speed to concentrate on making a subtle alteration to our morning practice to enable an enjoyable remaining three months of 2019.  

There will be no mention of ch**ge; people have an aversion to it.

Rather, let’s view making simple alterations to potentially alter the days outcome.

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Making alternations will help you achieve results from your mind and heart and direct these to your head and hand. How we think and feel drives how we behave.

Alterations commence with these two key words: Remove & Replace.

What can you remove from your daily practice and what will you replace in its absence? Rather than leave a void, we often find it easier to replace with an alternative. For example:

  • Remove thinking worst possible scenario and replace with one possible positive outcome.

  • Remove wondering what someone is thinking about you and replace with the commitment to call that person.

  • Remove feeling hopeless about the work you’re doing and replace with feeling hope that you’ve done your best.

  • Remove talking negatively about yourself and replace with a three positive strengths you bring to the day.

Reviewing your daily thoughts and tapping into the emotions you feel as you eat your breakfast and sip your coffee is paramount to altering your day’s outcome.

Remove what’s bothering you most and replace it with renewed energy, a new intention.

Tapping is my Remove & Replace ritual. Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a simple practice of connecting to the present negative emotions which need to be removed (away from the Amygdala in the brain - fight & flight) and then rewired with helpful positive emotions and thoughts (Prefrontal Cortex area of the brain - seeking to build trust). You can research this technique and give it a test run. I personally find it effective and powerful.

An example: I’ve created a bucket of actions and feel overwhelmed with its weight; I acknowledge this heavy feeling. I am replacing it with a prioritized list of what I need to do and a feeling of being in control.

If it’s too simple, here’s a lengthier action specific version of my Remove & Replace process which I use with my clients:

PROCESS - Example One

  1. Review my day

My head is like a bucket. It’s filled with pictures of the items at home and business which need to be completed. I feel overwhelmed and I’m struggling to know where to start.

2. Rate my current performance to achieve my day

My business is a 5 out of 10. My family will entertain themselves today – they are 9/10. The house is tidy – it’s 8/10.

3. Relate my purpose to my day

Today, my business needs more attention as the family have had my undivided attention for the past two days.

4. Results & Rewards I prefer to achieve

Completing five items for my business will enable me to enjoy Thursday & Friday with the family and enjoy some domestic bliss.

5. REMOVE OBSTACLES

TO FIX THE FEELING OF BEING OVERWHELMED, I TELL MYSELF THAT I NEED TO REMOVE THE BUCKET.

6. REPLACE WITH ALTERNATIVE

IN REPLACEMENT OF THE BUCKET I WILL CREATE A PRIORITIZED LIST OF ALL THE ACTIONS IN MY HEAD AND THE TIME REQUIRED FOR EACH ITEM. MY DAY IS SET OUT

7. Repeat process to make it a daily habit

Tomorrow I’ll review my effectiveness of this alteration.

PROCESS - Example Two

  1. Review my day

I have a meeting planned with the team today. I’m not looking forward to it. They’re a great bunch however they just don’t give their best and aren’t meeting their targets.

 2. Rate my current performance to achieve my day

The meeting is a 4/10 – I forgot to send the agenda and I need to give negative feedback to the whole team.

3. Relate my purpose to my day

This is my role, I need to make this meeting effective as I’m responsible for their performance. This needs my focused attention.

4. Results & Rewards I prefer to achieve

I will ask the team to create the meeting agenda and give them the feedback immediately to get it on the table. I need the team to trust me and I need to trust them.

5. REMOVE OBSTACLES

TO FIX THE TEAM MEETING, I TELL MYSELF TO STOP BLAMING THE TEAM AND WORRYING ABOUT THE MEETING AND TO VIEW MY DAY DIFFERENTLY AND FEEL ACCOUNTABLE FOR THIS PROBLEM.

6. REPLACE WITH ALTERNATIVE

I REPLACE THE WORRY WITH A PLANNED COMMUNICATION TO SEND TO THE GROUP REQUESTING THEIR INPUT FOR THE TEAM MEETING AGENDA. I PRACTISE HOW TO SHARE THE FEEDBACK WHICH REQUIRES AN ACCOUNTABLE AND EFFECTIVE OUTCOME.

7. Repeat process to make it a daily habit

Tomorrow I’ll review my effectiveness of this alteration.

What will you do to start your day. What will you remove and replace?

I’d love to hear how you can implement my Remove & Replace process.

THE LANGUAGE OF LEADERSHIP CONTINUED!

THE LANGUAGE OF LEADERSHIP CONTINUTED

Image: Logicofenglish.com

Image: Logicofenglish.com

The Vowels

OK, so you thought we had finished with The Language of Leadership!

So did I, however, I realised that we had five remaining days of October and coincidentally, there are five important letters to highlight .. our vowels.

A.E.I.O.U.

When I learnt to speak Japanese, the first lesson was about our pronunciation of our vowels. Almost every word in Japanese ends in a vowel (similar to Italian), so it was extremely important (and still is) to quickly sound like a Japanese person, speaking Japanese!

Japanese For Busy People - 1982 - My first Japanese text book.

Japanese For Busy People - 1982 - My first Japanese text book.

As an Australian, this was a challenge as our twang and pronunciation is strangely different to other English speaking countries; which meant the vowels became more important than the consonants! The vowel was king.

Given the elevation of these five vowels, let’s review these five letters and the words we use to express our leadership.

Today we’ll focus on our first vowel in the queue. A.

Action, Attitude, Assumption and Affirmations were four A words offered at the beginning of the month. Then, other words were offered via social media, including:

·       Assertiveness, opposed to aggressiveness

·       Appreciation and the importance of apologizing

·       Adaptive and being agile.

A’ is a significant letter in our language of leadership. The question is, did we forget any other important ‘A’ words?

Tomorrow we’ll revisit and explore the vowel ‘E’.

Domo Arigato Gozaimasu (Thank you very much.)

THE LANGUAGE OF LEADERSHIP - Y

THE LANGUAGE OF LEADERSHIP - Y

Image: Red River College - CA

Image: Red River College - CA

Two three letter words is what I offer today.

Yes & You.

Saying “yes” to the challenges offered to you, saying “yes” to the opportunities to stretch you and saying “yes” when you feel vulnerable and uncomfortable is what you do to build your leadership.

I know if I had said “No” when I had said “Yes”, I wouldn’t have the leadership capability, wisdom and confidence which I had today.

In a world which is way too busy and the new ‘yes’, is a confident ‘no’, people are missing valuable experiences in life.

For women in particular, it’s saying “yes” to that leadership position in the company even though you believe you only have NINETY PERCENT  of the requirements!

Leadership isn’t about you. Whilst it’s important to focus on your leadership communication, ensuring you understand the accountability and responsibility of being a leader; leadership is about others.

As a leader, your practice of leadership is serving others. You have the goal of bringing people along with you, enabling and engaging people to feel that they belong and add value to the workplace.

You should be saying “Yes Louise”, you’re right!

THE LANGUAGE OF LEADERSHIP - X

THE LANGUAGE OF LEADERSHIP - X

Identifying one word in my leadership vernacular, beginning with X, is an absolute challenge.

There are words, yet, I can’t honestly say, I use them.

Image: The X Factor Facebook

Image: The X Factor Facebook

I thought of X-factor – some people do have the leadership X-factor which I admire – they have all the elements which we talk about being required as a leader.

Then there’s the word X-ray. Some leaders use their hindsight, have foresight and insight to cut through the BS of what’s going on in the workplace, culture and climate and make a call of what’s really going on! They start the conversation to make corrections or unearth the unspoken rules which don’t add value to the workplace.

Today, I am really keen to seek your input.

What’s your X word?

And while you’re thinking about how you express your leadership, think of your Y & Z contributions.