Well-being builds your leadership. Being self-aware, you take more notice of your behaviour and how this shows up in how you lead your life.

We demonstrate five ways that we help people put their well-being centre of attention and how this will show up in leading a more effective (and happy) life.

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An annoying habit of too many parents is the act of answering questions directed at their children. In particular, the parents who's children are old enough and capable to respond.

Likewise, leaders fall into this habit when they ask their team a question in a meeting and SILENCE falls heavy and the leader assumes the role of answering.

In both these cases we are either experiencing someone who is too accommodating or prefers the sound of their own voice. 

Whilst many leaders are following and leading the movements of collaboration, inclusiveness and mindfulness, many are not! 

We still have leaders (of adults and children) failing to provide breathing, thinking and silence spaces enabling people to build their responses and answers.

When coaching, the skill of silence can be very challenging to practise. Knowing the answer is IMMINENT, takes experience to just listen, creating the space for a thoughtful response.  


It's something we all experience however it takes the experienced to make it a common practice.

It's something we all experience however it takes the experienced to make it a common practice.

Silence should be your friend not your enemy.

Use silence to:

CUT TO THE CHASE -  when seeking an answer, ask the question and zip your lips. Let the other person think and be accountable for their role in the conversation

STOP THE BUSYNESS - sit for five minutes and do nothing, listen to nothing and think of nothing - it clears your head and allows you to then start to focus on what is most important

FIND A SOLUTION - often it's the quiet people who have the ideas however the noisy folk take up too much space to enable the solution to be heard

REFLECT- often the answer is held in our past. Taking time to reflect on past experiences guides us what to do or not do

ENGAGE - whilst this may sound strange, your role as a leader is to listen more than talk. Others will respect you for listening to them.

There are many powerful benefits of befriending silence. It's a tool for all leaders to hear more clearly and provide space for people to find their answer. 

There is one other benefit I have learnt from practising silence - being in tune with my body. I aim to attend the occasional yoga class and it's taken many years to see the value of lying in an awkward position in silence. I am so in tune with my body ... we are now at peace with each other - I suppose you could say we are friends!

What difference do I make?

I've just completed a program of coaching sessions with a client and my coachee's unsolicited feedback, at the end, was positively heartwarming.

As we lead others, we unconsciously go about some of our activity and don't realize the difference we make with others. 

Taking time to have conversations, following up with the odd electronic message to check their well being or progress with a challenge/issue/matter demonstrates that you care and want to see a difference in their lives.

While working with a group of people yesterday who were interested to understand how to coach others, it was unanimously agreed that leaders can and should help others reach their potential and achieve the difference in their performance.

Maybe you need to stop and think hard to answer this question: What difference do I make? It's one of many questions that we need to consider and answer as leaders.

That's OK.

The important piece of this equation is connecting with your purpose in life. Why are you here? Knowing your purpose engages you with the difference you make in others' lives.

Share this question with your team - it makes for a reflective discussion.

Check my ideas on Coaching and connect with me to discuss further.