AP Psychology

AP Psychology

During the acquisition of personality intelligence, which occurs when you meet new people, when you join a new group of people, you’ve no doubt determined that some people are focused solely on performance. Whereas some people are more concerned about people or maybe, you’ve identified a limited few who are solely passionate about process.

Personality Intelligence helps you navigate the complexity of people – discovering what drives them, what motivates them, and hopefully, why they do, what they do. When we have this data, we can then change our communication style to speak their language. This is what effective leaders do.

Being positive isn’t difficult. It’s no more challenging than be negative. There are so many people in life who we wish would be more positive! Yep, it’s a mental mind shift, and it is possible.

Who do you know who is always running late? Running late for dinner, running late for a meeting and running late on life?

Punctuality is important for many people and I like to view this from both sides. For those who are punctual, it’s great to start the meeting on time rather than wait for those who are late. I know, there are excuses/reasons, but unless you deal with those problems, they’ll keep reoccurring. If you are continually running late, you are probably annoying many people in your life. What does this say about respect and trust and your relationships?

I have worked with a few people who have changed the time of meetings e.g. ten past the hour, to allow people to move between meetings – genius!

Punctuality problems is a big clue that there is something amiss in a person’s life – a little bit of coaching can help these people.

Possibility is a door opener. Asking your team, “what’s the possibility of making this more effective?” “What are the possible options to consider?” Oh, it’s a great leadership word. Open minds, open thoughts and considerations.

Finally, presence. I talk about presence in The Female Factor program. Presence is about posture, confidence and influencing how you’re perceived. It’s an all encompassing ‘word’ to encourage you to have presence in your leadership.

I hope you’re enjoying this game, The Language of Leadership. It’s your turn now. What’s your contribution? Your P words in leadership.

Being Bold & Strong - Affirmations & Change


Being Bold & Strong isn't easy. I've just listened to Donna Bauer speak about her Bowel Cancer life episode and all I could think of was how bold and strong she is to fly the Bowel Cancer Flag and share her very emotional story.

Talking about anything smelly and from your bottom isn't sexy however, we're all human, we all appreciate the fact that we have a bowel and the thought of wearing a colostomy bag doesn't sit comfortably with me, let alone death.

I have something less emotional and far easier to stomach. My two actions to consider during Be Bold & Strong week are:

1. Stretch your mind using positive affirmations e.g. I am bold & strong.

2. Take a different approach to your normal routine tasks.

Whilst these are two quite different tasks, they can be morphed into one.  Adopting affirmations into your daily internal communication will promote a more positive outlook on life. If you are a 'glass half empty' person (pessimist) then this quick technique can help you be optimistic. Rather than say "I can't do that.", change it to, "I am doing it well." or "I can do it."

If you avoid, deviate and ignore opportunities to change, then you can take baby steps by selecting a simple daily task to change.  Write/Type down every task which consume your day I'm sure you'll  find one which you want to change. My current task is allocating household chores to the kids - I have to be very strong to keep to my word - "no computers until the dishwasher is emptied!" 

Wish me luck!