THE LANGUAGE OF LEADERSHIP - H

THE LANGUAGE OF LEADERSHIP - H

Found this at Easy Health Options

Found this at Easy Health Options

We are travelling the alphabet exploring the language used to express our leadership.

Today is the letter H.

Which H letter words immediately come to mind?

I was surprised how quickly I came up with my H letter words. I hear myself using these three words on a daily basis: Hope, Honesty and Happiness.

Let’s begin with HOPE.

Viktor E. Frankl wrote ‘Mans Search for Meaning’, way back in the 40s and people are still reading it, including me and attributing their success as a leader to his lesson of hope.

Our ability to choose how we respond to people and situations (our behaviour) is attributed to knowing your purpose in life and the hope you have in fulfilling that purpose.

In leadership, we create the culture of the working environment which helps people fulfil their purpose; giving them hope to achieve their goals, whether that be intrinsic or extrinsic motivated.

When I work with people, as their leadership intelligence mentor, I hope that it will have a greater impact than they expected. I give them hope that they can be a better leader given our conversations and the advice provided.

This leads to HAPPINESS.

I ask this question when I host my Personality Intelligence workshops: What makes you happy?

If you immediately know what makes you happy, fabulous. Knowing what happiness looks like for your colleagues, boss and in particular, your team members (your staff) then you have the equation to create meaning and purpose in their working life. On top of that if you know this information, you can adjust your communication to talk leadership in their language.

Finally, HONESTY.

Too often I uncover in my conversations with people that they haven’t had an honest conversation with someone. Generally a team member or their boss, who hasn’t been given the honest feedback on the impact they are having on the team, the business or even the customer.

I struggle with performance management frameworks which leads to the belief that you only give feedback annually. C’mon, let get better with being honest with ourselves as a leader and honest with the people who we can influence and inspire to be better humans!

I hope you have a happy day and provide some honest feedback to the important humans in your life!

We’ve already visited A-G on the leadership alphabet. Keep reading my blogs to help you consider the words you express your leadership.

Values, Vision & Visa

I promise not to mention 'resolutions' in this blog - OK, only this once! 

 

Given we are counting down the hours to a new year, we have a natural tendency to think of "Next year, I'm going to ...... whether that is stop, start, do more of, change, reduce or even try again! With this mindset and topical conversation piece in the air, you may as well practise articulating your message and answers. 

If you need help, try the 3V model. It's simple to use for yourself or guide conversations with others.  

 

The model is three categories of questions to build a framework of thoughts and communication: 

 

VALUES - What are your values? What's important to you? Why do you get up and go and do what you do in the time you are awake? 

 

VISION - What do you wish for? What do you want? What do you need? If you close your eyes and see yourself in 2020, what are doing, what do you look like and where are you?  

 

VISA - Is it currency or access or both? If you had unlimited access to funds and places in the world, what would you do and where would go and be? What do you dream about? 

 

Now it's time to draw, write, talk or simply get caught up in your thoughts. And where do you start?

I find this 3V model (values, vision & visa) should at least help you activate a sence of importance or urgency to think about your chosen activity in 2015 and how these choices will impact and influence your achievement of the answers to these questions.

Most people struggle to commit to any change - it takes courage, tenacity and a good support crew. However, you've got to start, and if you haven't, now is the time!

 

If you're interested to focus on this further - here are some addition ideas & resources:

www.values.com - this is a great site with a list of values to help you identify your values.

Happiness is the icing on your cake (Melinda Pile) - a small ebook resource of resources  

PINTEREST - it's a great site /app to view other people's vision, creations, businesses - great if you're visual

Driving Your Life Program - connect with me to understand how our program can work for you. We coach individuals, run public workshops, and speak about how to take control of your 'steering wheel'.

 

EXAMPLES:

Values: Family, Friendship, Fitness & Volunteering

Vision: Completing Marathon, Increased Business Referrals, Family Dinners & Holidays, Building local women's business network, Local community transport group

Visa: Buy car for husband, Travel for six weeks around Europe in 2016 with family & friends

 

 

 

WHAT DO YOU WANT TO BE?

What do you want to be?

Do you ask this question when you meet kids?

My kids generally get asked this question when they meet adults for the first time. I’m always surprised with the responses as it changes all the time! My daughter responded last week with “a sports teacher” and my son “a racing car driver”. It’s all relative to what’s happening ‘in’ the moment and what's '

I ask adults this same question! “What do you want to be?” And the general response is “I’m not sure!” Which is fair enough – as we are bombarded with so many changes, choices and options in our life – how does one keep focused on an idea?!

So, when I stumbled across a TED Talk by 13 year old Logan LaPlante I finally heard an excellent response to this question. It’s so simple and I know that most people want to respond with these words however their ego gets in the way!

The response: To be happy!

That then leads to the next question – What do you currently do that makes you happy? 

In leadership, it’s about asking these and many more questions during your conversations to help people achieve happiness doing what they do!