ARE YOU TOO SOFT?
I was working with a group earlier this week and several people decided and announced that they were too soft!
To give context, we were discussing the ability to give feedback. Too many times they fluffed around the subject, avoided the matter and skirted the issue! A waste of time - both for the giver and the intended receiver.
Next time you need to give feedback - whether it's for positive & reinforcing behaviour or more importantly, it's to change and correct the situation, don't sugar coat it, just highlight the situation, the behaviour in question and how it affects you/others.
This doesn't come easy for some (many!) but with practise, it does work. There's more to the technique and the approach, however this is the crux of how to give feedback.
Give it a go today and toughen up!