ARE YOU LIVING YOUR LIFE?

ARE YOU LIVING YOUR LIFE?

Exploring you!

Exploring you!

I felt many emotions whilst reading Finding Your Element; enthusiasm due to the brilliant resources contained and often sadness. I wasn’t sad for myself but for the many people who don’t get the opportunity to read this powerful message; gifts of wisdom, schools of thought and practical advice.

Too many people in our world are “too busy” or too lazy to contemplate what they can grasp and learn from reading what another person has taken so much time to prepare and share.

I feel humbled that a colleague and friend loaned me, The Element (last week’s read) and Finding Your Element which I’m sharing my views on now. How lucky am I to learn, and be reminded of useful ideas, techniques, activities and research to add richness to what I do in my business – which is very similar to the purpose of this book.

Ken Robinson, author, TED Talker and now a ‘Sir’ has followed through with responding to ‘how do you find your element that you told us about in your book?’ Again, another really easy read, however you might get lost in time if you answer the multitude of questions and delve into the many activities.

I’d be really surprised to meet anyone (here in Victoria, Australia) who took the time to complete the activities. They’re not difficult, but what concerns me the most is that people fear what they will discover about their life. I suspect many people will realise that they are living someone else’s life.

My tip is to read the book first and then go back to the beginning and respond to the questions and complete the activities. Like many self-help books, it’s hard work!

So here are a few gems which I think would entice you to read Finding Your Element … here goes:

In a nutshell, finding your element boils down to being self-aware of your aptitudes, attitude, personality etc – having an honest audit of yourself allows you to slot yourself into future opportunities which you will want to create.

Essentially, Ken wants you to lead a life (the dash between the years of your life) filled with passion and purpose which means you need to articulate what you’re good at, what you love doing and essentially, what makes you happy. Do you know the answers to these questions?

Reading people’s element stories was heart-warming – courageous acts of change that sometimes sounded almost unbelievable. I felt like a plodder (is that a term?) compared to some people whose pursuit involved using all their funds, selling family homes, returning to study and leaving their technical expertise. Taking risks because they knew that their ‘true north’ was yet to be discovered.

Amongst the many exercises which Ken provides, one is extremely useful - determining what you’re good at. We generally get caught looking for, talking about and thinking of ‘what we’re not good at’ (especially women) – the activity enables you through its step by step explanation, to differentiate your aptitudes and abilities. This exercise encourages you to explore aptitudes at a depth concealed, latent and waiting to be discovered.

And finally, amongst the many questions, the five which I found would help many consider what their element might be:

·        What do you know of that you’re not good at and would like to improve?

·        Do you have any talents that you haven’t developed that you wished that you had?

·        What sorts of activities lift your spirits and feed your energy?

·        If you couldn’t fail, what would you most like to achieve?

·        When do you feel at your happiest?

If you don’t see the need to read this book for yourself, then consider your role in life. If you’re a team leader, you’ll appreciate this as a resource – providing quality questions to add to your repertoire. Applying the questions in regular conversations will enable you to coach your people to self-develop and help them locate their element or other elements (we’re not limited to one).

I am a self-help book junkie. To say that I enjoyed Finding Your Element, is an understatement. I hope that some of you will be influenced to read it too and feel the emotion of joy that it brought me.

I’m endeavouring to read 52 Business/Professional/Personal Development books in 52 weeks. Yep, that’s one a week. As I read each book, I’ll share my thoughts, learning and recommendations. If there is a book that you’ve been meaning to read, let me know and I’ll read it for us!

ARE YOU IN YOUR ELEMENT?

ARE YOU IN YOUR ELEMENT?

Which TED Talk has been viewed more than any other?

If you guessed correctly, you would have said Sir Ken Robinson’s – Do schools kill Creativity?

Following his recording, 10 years ago, he pumped out this week’s read: The Element – How finding your passion changes everything. Interestingly, Sir Ken is asking people to send him an email about the impact his TED talk has had on their lives.

This week's read: The Element

As I read The Element, I could hear Sir Ken’s voice on every page packed with a good dose of humour. It’s now a toned down English accent as he resides in sunny California – a big move from his humble beginning, being one of many siblings and being struck down with Polio at a young age. This adds great creditability to Sir Ken’s enthusiasm to take heed of his message and the story of his journey.

The format of The Element makes for an easy and interesting read – providing rich stories and research supporting the opportunity to apply the push to find the element lurking in your inner self … if you’re yet to locate it.

The Element – the place where the things we love to do and the thing we are good at come together.

The added bonus of this book is learning more about the many people who I have grown up with (well, they don’t know me, but I thought I knew them well). Living their youth filled with adversity, or parents who had different plans for their future and those who didn’t become famous until later in life. People like Vidal Sassoon, the man behind the Shampoo on the shelves of the supermarket. He said, “That the inconvenience of discipline, the structure in my young life, one of adversity, is what helped shape me and make me be successful and be in my element.

Sadly, too many people live other peoples’ lives. They don’t follow their passion, for various reasons, and succumb to living and behaving how others want them to be.

Many people put aside their passions to pursue things that they don’t care about for the sake of financial security.

Sir Ken examines many reasons why people don’t operate in their element, more instructions on how to get your element happening and a bucket load of data to support why you should get busy with your Element as he has overturned all excuses of why you wouldn’t and couldn’t.

Here’s a summary:

We are now more aware of our many intelligences; we’re not relying solely on IQ tests to determine our success. By exploring where our strengths lie, we will have more opportunity to discover what we love doing, and doing it well – which equates to your Element.

In Sir Ken’s TED talk, he focused on how schools stifle creativity and the need for parents to help their kids decide if education is the right path to follow to locate their Element. In his book, we delve into the power of the mind, imagining what you want to do and then taking it to the next level by being creative to make it happen

We are introduced to another great book, which is on my list to read, Flow, by Dr Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi – the text is referenced to suggest that we need to be skilled and invested in a goal to achieve a state of Flow or as we more commonly say ‘in the zone’. Many of us have experienced this feeling in sports - consider training for a Marathon: you know how to run, you know the distance which is required and you can run and run and feel no pain.

If you‘re a leader that encourages others to be in the flow and in their element, you are giving them energy. If you’re the opposite, you have a workplace which discourages people being in their element and in Flow, then you suck the energy (and creativity) out of them.

Circles of Influence aka your Tribes are required to help you achieve your Element. Hanging around with people who encourage you to be creative and be the real you, create the environment to operate at your best. Think of a great team, whether that be work or a sports team, they will testify that you were in your Element. Sadly, it is our closest tribe, our family, who often have other plans and priorities for us - preventing our achievement of our element.

How many square pegs in round holes have you encountered in your work life? I have met too many and sadly they cause too many of the dilemmas and dramas in workplaces. When people are in their Element, they require less management and leadership. I do blame managers in these situations – it takes good leadership to have helpful and challenging conversations to guide people to locate their element … elsewhere. At the same time, it’s a big price to pay to change. Resistance from friends, family and fans to leave a ‘good paying job’ to find your mojo elsewhere.

And help is needed on this journey of change in search of your Element. This help can be obtained from a Mentor. Mentors connect you to the right people, will be a part of your life and a critical influence in your Element search. If not a Mentor, search for your Hero’s – those who have saved you from a position or situation and put you on a better course. Either way, like having a tribe, you can’t do it alone – you need others in your life to be in your Element.

Being in your element often means being connected with other people who share the same passions and have a common sense of commitments.

I enjoyed learning about people who chose a different road in their life, later in their life. I am affronted with the thought of retirement. I’ve never considered stopping doing what I love doing. I often challenge myself to do new things and continue to learn. I’m always looking for the opportunity to change … to find a possible new element! You are in charge of your life. The only thing which is stopping you is in your head – your mind.

When we are in our element, we feel that we are meant to be doing what we’re doing and being who we are meant to be.

My favourite piece to read was the debate of the Professional and the Amateur – the professional gets paid for what they do and the role they fulfill whereas the amateur does not. The Amateur is passionate about what they do and doesn’t get the cash. Are you a professional or are you an amateur on the Element Continuum? How prepared are you to forfeit your money opportunities to fulfill the feeling of being in your element.

The final chapter in The Element links back to the TED Talk – discussing school systems. This makes sense as it’s in school that we heard ourselves say, “When I grow up, I want to be a ….” and when we’re in our final years of education, we’re less sure of our desires. It’s a terrible indictment on our Education system and I hope in the past ten years, we are on a better course to help our young people find their Element

I’d like to think that you’ve got this far reading my review and said Yes, I am in my element. However, I think not. It’s not easy to admit that you’re not happy ad unsatisfied with what you’re doing in your life. If there is any doubt, do something about it. If you are in your Element, then consider being a Mentor.

And do I recommend reading this book? Absolutely – we should all be involved in our and others’ Elements. I opened the first page The Element and a hundred books. Sir Ken was very generous with his research and writing, quoting, sharing and extracting the core value of so many other books which supports The Element. You should read it too.

I’m endeavouring to read 52 Business/Professional/Personal Development books in 52 weeks. Yep, that’s one a week. As I read each book, I’ll share my thoughts, learning and recommendations. If there is a book that you’ve been meaning to read, let me know and I’ll read it for us!