THE LANGUAGE OF LEADERSHIP - C

THE LANGUAGE OF LEADERSHIP

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Which C words come to mind?

The Language of Leadership

Conversations, Climate, Conflict & Confidence

There are so many C’s in my Leadership Language: conversations, climate, conflict and confidence are at the tip of my tongue!

What are the C’s in your leadership vernacular?

I’m playing a game to facilitate ideas, thoughts and beliefs on leadership. And, I’m curious to hear what people hear themselves saying about leadership or how others describe their leadership.

I’m sure many will say communication – it’s a gorgeous broad term and I carve it into so many components.  To begin with, I believe leadership is all about Conversations.

Conversations bring people together; they formulate relationships and craft futures. Conversations come in various forms; they can be brief (feedback) and endure for hours (meetings, mentoring, coaching).

The more time you spend having conversations with people, the more opportunity you have to gain respect which then creates trust. For some, conversations come naturally whilst others it’s a challenge. My tip do your research on people and be curious to explore what you’ve discovered – ask great questions as the conversation is all about getting to understand the people.

Climate is the vibe I feel when I walk into a workplace. It’s the gut feeling I have when I have conversations with people. It tells me more than the culture as it’s the unspoken words – it’s the litmus test for the words on the wall in the reception area. A mission and vision statement might try and sell me what an organisation does whereas the climate will tell me if the people feel happy and respected where they work. Take the temperature of your office today!

Conflict tells us what is important to people. Leaders need the capability to know when to intervene and help people move out of conflict or better still, know people so well that they know what drives them to conflict – the triggers, the situations and the behaviours.

We all experience threats to our self-worth, it’s characteristic of the cause of conflict. And this threat can be real or perceived. Managing conflict is a critical capability (double C!) to lead teams to success.

Confidence is what I hope all people can grow in their lives. Leaders need confidence to successfully do their role and leaders need to foster confidence in their people. Confidence is like climate – you can’t quite put your finger on it. I am reminded by family friends of how shy I was when I was younger, and it took effort and energy to focus on manipulating this confidence. I still work on it and sometimes I am too confident – so it’s always an area I am shaping and developing.

What C’s have I missed? What C’s are important in your life; in your role of leadership?

Have you read my two recent posts - catch up on the A’'s & B’'s of Leadership? You’ll find these under the THOUGHTS section of my website.

Values, Vision & Visa

I promise not to mention 'resolutions' in this blog - OK, only this once! 

 

Given we are counting down the hours to a new year, we have a natural tendency to think of "Next year, I'm going to ...... whether that is stop, start, do more of, change, reduce or even try again! With this mindset and topical conversation piece in the air, you may as well practise articulating your message and answers. 

If you need help, try the 3V model. It's simple to use for yourself or guide conversations with others.  

 

The model is three categories of questions to build a framework of thoughts and communication: 

 

VALUES - What are your values? What's important to you? Why do you get up and go and do what you do in the time you are awake? 

 

VISION - What do you wish for? What do you want? What do you need? If you close your eyes and see yourself in 2020, what are doing, what do you look like and where are you?  

 

VISA - Is it currency or access or both? If you had unlimited access to funds and places in the world, what would you do and where would go and be? What do you dream about? 

 

Now it's time to draw, write, talk or simply get caught up in your thoughts. And where do you start?

I find this 3V model (values, vision & visa) should at least help you activate a sence of importance or urgency to think about your chosen activity in 2015 and how these choices will impact and influence your achievement of the answers to these questions.

Most people struggle to commit to any change - it takes courage, tenacity and a good support crew. However, you've got to start, and if you haven't, now is the time!

 

If you're interested to focus on this further - here are some addition ideas & resources:

www.values.com - this is a great site with a list of values to help you identify your values.

Happiness is the icing on your cake (Melinda Pile) - a small ebook resource of resources  

PINTEREST - it's a great site /app to view other people's vision, creations, businesses - great if you're visual

Driving Your Life Program - connect with me to understand how our program can work for you. We coach individuals, run public workshops, and speak about how to take control of your 'steering wheel'.

 

EXAMPLES:

Values: Family, Friendship, Fitness & Volunteering

Vision: Completing Marathon, Increased Business Referrals, Family Dinners & Holidays, Building local women's business network, Local community transport group

Visa: Buy car for husband, Travel for six weeks around Europe in 2016 with family & friends