This is a great read - What The Most Successful People Do On The Weekend by Laura Vanderkam. The key message is that successful people are always planning and in particular, planning so that they can enjoy their weekend. Their planning is so vital that they thrive on the anticipation of the what they have planned.Read More
With Australian Politics under the spotlight, we can and should use this opportunity to contemplate the potential of this 'swift activity' occurring in our life.
Is there any possibility that you could be spilled in your role, organisation, friendship - any relationship?
Have you experienced a drastic change which occurred within hours? Of course you have: resignations, redundancies, relationship break-ups, project cancellations, pregnancies (!) and the list continues.
The lesson here is, we should always be ready for change. Some folk could see the spill coming in the political arena - up in the stalls of the grandstand they observe and commentate.
However, how often do we ask our commentators to give us feedback and seek advice given what they see us doing and not doing?
My advice is the need to plan.
Plan to make mistakes; plan for failure; plan for successes; plan for spills in our life.
If we carry on as we do, with limited planning we'll be taken by surprise and on the back foot.
People who have current plans will have a 2nd and 3rd approach up their sleeve.
We're finalising our Ultimate Planning Workshop - maybe we should invite some of the Federal Polititians!
To enable ourselves to approach planning with a clear view of our goal, we need to declutter our space, or better still, I suggest declutter our life.
When I ask people, "what prevents them from achieving your performance goals?", a frequent response is: the time consuming tasks, like: email traffic, last minute meetings and regular redundant reports.
This is an excuse and it needs to be addressed. It's behavioural so it can be changed!
My tips for approaching these 'tasks' is to say to yourself "stop being reactive and start being proactive". In other words, be accountable for what you do.
I should't need to tell you this ... however, we are all guilty of 'unconscious behaviours' taking control of our life, so, it does help when the obvious is made obvious to us.
To be PROACTIVE with these time consuming tasks:
1. Think before you respond - consider, what you really want to say, say it assertively and ensure your message approaches the situation to make a change. I admire people who call me and others in response to emails or better still, they move and speak 'face to face' to the sender of the communication!
2. Check the purpose of the task - ask yourself, "is my input required, is there a decision requested and what is the consequence if I don't action the task?" This will require conversations with others; in the long run if might free up your time.
3. Offer an alternative or solution to stop the task reoccurring - whilst it might take time, consider your quest to to remove the task from your role. Yep, it's about change which others will react to. No pain ... no gain!
We want you to be prepared for an awesome 2016 which means decluttering your life to enable you to easily squeeze new behaviours, activities and tasks which add more meaning and purpose to your life. (You have 16 weeks to make these changes.)
How busy are you today?
When did you wake? When will you sleep?
How many tasks, meetings, events and things have you attended to, already?
We live in a world which presents us with every conceivable tool to enable our involvement and opportunity to be engaged - so much so we've been consumed into a vortex which has disabled our ability to say "NO!"
We've queued for quantity and disbanded quality. OK, maybe there are some quality factors in your life however in our pursuit to get the one thing at a quality standard, we risk missing the 29 other items to attend to.
We literally squeeze the life out of our life.
We are so exhausted we forget to simply enjoy, breath, soak up the sensation and marvel at the creation.
Life is about choice. We choose what we do in life. We are accountable, that is, personally responsible for what we do.
To avoid the squeeze, choose three less things to squeeze into your day. With that added time, be in the moment of what you do rather than wondering, what's next to squeeze into the day. It's not that easy; it takes planning and the skill of decluttering! More on that tomorrow.
I recently met with a 'Mentee' and she commented "how do you do it?" - "a businesswomen with a young family". It stopped me in my tracks, as I generally wonder how others do it!
We all have the same number of hours allocated to us and for some reason, some do it while others watch you do it!
From my observation it comes down to: choice and the techniques, processes and approach we take to accomplish what's on our list.
Choice is the mental piece - it's the tough one to crack. Do I choose to get up early, go to bed early, watch TV until midnight, go to the gym during my lunch break, eat a carrot rather than a donut etc. It's the continuous conversation in your head which is either connected or disconnected to your values and drive.
The techniques, processes and approach is all skill based - learnt with experience. For example: writing goals, prioritising activities and creating a plan are second nature for those that regularly practise. My approach involves talking, asking and testing ideas - then writing it down and acting on ot! It works for me!
The main point is, if it ain't working for you and you're not doing it - then ask for help. Get a Coach, a Mentor, seek someone out whom you've observed 'doing it' and question them - "How do you do it?"
I host a Women's Business Network in my suburb; we have our own private Facebook page and meet regularly to discuss our business ideas & issues. I'm in another network with four other women and we're always asking "How do you do it?"
Don't stop asking!