I promise not to mention 'resolutions' in this blog - OK, only this once!

Given we are counting down the hours to a new year, we have a natural tendency to think of "Next year, I'm going to ...... whether that is stop, start, do more of, change, reduce or even try again! With this mindset and topical conversation piece in the air, you may as well practise articulating your message and answers.

If you need help, try the 3V model. It's simple to use for yourself or guide conversations with others.

The model is three categories of questions to build a framework of thoughts and communication:

VALUES - What are your values? What's important to you? Why do you get up and go and do what you do in the time you are awake?

VISION - What do you wish for? What do you want? What do you need? If you close your eyes and see yourself in 2020, what are doing, what do you look like and where are you?

VISA - Is it currency or access or both? If you had unlimited access to funds and places in the world, what would you do and where would go and be? What do you dream about?

Now it's time to draw, write, talk or simply get caught up in your thoughts. And where do you start?

I find this 3V model (values, vision & visa) should at least help you activate a sence of importance or urgency to think about your chosen activity in 2015 and how these choices will impact and influence your achievement of the answers to these questions.

Most people struggle to commit to any change - it takes courage, tenacity and a good support crew. However, you've got to start, and if you haven't, now is the time!

If you're interested to focus on this further - here are some addition ideas & resources:

www.values.com - this is a great site with a list of values to help you identify your values.

Happiness is the icing on your cake (Melinda Pile) - a small ebook resource of resources

PINTEREST - it's a great site /app to view other people's vision, creations, businesses - great if you're visual

Driving Your Life Program - connect with me to understand how our program can work for you. We coach individuals, run public workshops, and speak about how to take control of your 'steering wheel'.

EXAMPLES:

Values: Family, Friendship, Fitness & Volunteering

Vision: Completing Marathon, Increased Business Referrals, Family Dinners & Holidays, Building local women's business network, Local community transport group

Visa: Buy car for husband, Travel for six weeks around Europe in 2016 with family & friends

Who’s in the Driver’s Seat in your head?

I often hesitate when I pick up the phone to make a call. I admit that I’ve never been fond of the phone – I’d rather be in person or use Skype or Hangout.

“They’ll be in a meeting; too busy to talk.”

“I know they’re not interested in our project.”

“I’m sure they’ll say ‘no’.”

The voice in my head makes these statements! It regularly influences what I do and DON’T do! Let me introduce you to Wimpy Wanda – one of the characters, the freeloaders in my head.

Who’s talking in your head … right now?

Is it Curious Cate, reading everything on Social Media? Or, is it Social Sam, wants to chat rather than tackle the big project or is it Perfect Peter, making you reread and rewrite your presentation?

There are many characters resident in our heads – several unwelcome guests who try and jump in the Driver’s seat, who should be locked in the boot of the car!

When I wake in the morning, it’s generally Focused Fiona who beats the alarm clock, guides me to my pile of running clothes, checks the weather satellite and checks the meeting time! On the odd occasion it’s Procrastinator Pam – with a mile long list of reasons not to run!

I have listened to people during workshops give titles to these voices – becoming more aware that they limit and hinder their control of life’s steering wheel.

With such great resources* available to help manage these voices, Procrastinator Pam gains control and never finds time to order, attend or use these tools. You need to locate Action Adam to sign up and join us on our ‘Driving Your Life’ program - we help you identify with these characters to better control these voices enabling you to jump in the Driver’s seat and take charge of your actions & feelings.

*A great book is Getting our Act Together: How to Harness the Power of Groups by Glen Ochre

Who’s in the Driver’s Seat in your head?

Who’s talking in your head … right now?

Action Adam - click here!